3P Random Reflections Blog

In the past, if anything appeared to go wrong in our workdays, my husband and I would share our stories with each other once we got home.

We would talk about all the reasons why we were right and why they were wrong. And funnily enough, each of us, in support of the other, would use our creative cooperation to come up with even more reasons to be upset, to further prove the assigned rights and wrongs... many more reasons than either of us would ever have come up with on our own. We took an apparent bad situation and made it much worse by getting validation from someone else, by adding more personal significance and meaning, and by extending its otherwise fleeting life.

And then after some insight into the illusory nature and feeling of insecure thought, we saw how we were taking inherently neutral situations, and then adding stories that bolstered our egos, created division, and fostered our own suffering.

We've pretty well stopped this habit, although when we do occasionally imbibe, whoever is the listener often knows enough to NOT add to the story, and to gently listen instead, until the story teller eventually wears out or wakes up.

Being able to navigate life with less need for the insecure side of our ego (judging, blaming, justifying, reasoning, defending), and with more simple common sense (just doing what needs to be done, if anything), is a blessing.

Eckhart Tolle has a few amusing stories to point to this... https://youtu.be/Ci8ZAj6Z8C4

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