3P Random Reflections Blog

Being open and able to ask what others think, is a beautiful and powerful thing to be able to do, whenever we can do it.

I get the sense that most of us struggle with it these days, including me, oftentimes.

Our sense of who we are, so often, can be so tightly wound up with what we believe to be true, that we can't allow any contradictions, let alone even just hearing them...

Hidden underneath all our thinking is just a little kid trying to protect itself... That is, if our beliefs are wrong, then WE must be wrong, and we don't know how to handle all the uncomfortable feelings that then arise within us (shame, anger, embarrassment, confusion, righteousness, fear, etc.).

But, in those moments when our sense of self is NOT as intertwined with what we think, it allows us to speak what we think is true with a much lighter heart... NO FIGHT... no shouting, no forcing, no pushing, no defending, no need for others to think as we do... or on the opposite side, NO FLIGHT... no hiding, no running, no freezing, no protecting. Just simply speaking... without the need to judge anyone else for thinking differently, and without the need to be defensive or righteous against how others may think or feel about us.

We then get to hear and deeply consider what others have to say, without getting our ego involved.

Sometimes, in that temporarily-parked-ego state of deep listening, we can discover that right and wrong are not so black and white, that "truths" in this world of form are ALWAYS relative, that at the deeper foundation of things, we often have more agreement than disagreement in whatever is attempting to be communicated, and that we can find all sorts of kind and helpful ways to live together WITHIN all the apparent contradictions.

With Love and Laughter,

Jonelle

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